Life is filled with peaks and valleys. It’s just the nature of it. Not many people just have a smooth sailing line to “the top”. Ups and downs. Highs and lows. Light and dark. Peaks and valleys.
Why does it have to be this way? Well – I think it’s because we live in a world of duality. For our human experience, it would be very difficult to really know and understand the good without the bad. We know what it means to be warm because we have experienced the cold. We know what it feels like to be heart-broken because we know what it feels like to be loved.
My biggest struggle with the valleys is that I sometimes get stuck down there for a little too long. When I’m in a valley, I pull away from people and isolate even more than I normally do. The valleys can be dark and really lonely and I wonder if I was just made to live there forever sometimes. I probably feel comfortable down there because it’s “safe.” If I’m in the dark valley away from people – there is less of a chance that someone will let me down. If I don’t need anyone, then I give nobody the chance to hurt me. The walls are up and they are STRONG.
But what happens when we build super strength walls around ourselves? We keep all the good out too.
I know that in my brain. But my body and heart struggle to catch up with that.
I know one day I’ll spend more time in the peaks and less time in the valleys. I know if I work on letting people in, I’ll want to spend less time in the valleys. The past 5 years have felt like a whole lot of valleys. One day I’ll maybe share more of my story. 2019 to 2022 could be a book all on it’s own. There has been a lot of beauty too – but it’s always a LOT of work for me to climb out to really see it. But I really want to. I really want to make the most of this life. I fully believe that we have the power to make our lives extraordinary. No outside circumstance dictates that – we do.
Nobody is coming to save me and pull me out of the valley. It’s all on me to climb out. So I’ll step up my workout game and keep getting stronger for that climb.
If you’re stuck in some deep valleys too – just know you are not alone down there. Take the time to heal, to learn more about yourself, and rest in the stillness before you’re ready to climb out too.
With so much love,
Krysta
Felt this to my core Krysta!!! I’ve been in that valley for a few years now also. When I think I’m ready to leave, I fall back down into it. Change is scary. Brutal honesty can be terrifying. Being honest with yourself and with others. I’ve gotten comfortable in the lows, but I yearn for the highs. I want LIVE my life with peace in my heart and joy in my soul π. I don’t want to simply exist on the sidelines with no control over my fate. I’m there with you my friend. You are not alone in that valley. I’m empathizing along side of you. I relate whole heartedly!! Thank you for always being your authentic self ππβ€οΈβ€οΈππ XOXO
Thank you for the support and for reading! I love your heart. π
From a valley (pain for a year – hip surgery in 3 weeks) – one of my spiritual mentors asks –
Is part of what is hard is our judgement that there should be less valleys or easier ones rather than being with what is? This is true for me!
I also wonder what the world looks like when we have community who says I know you isolate and I’m coming over. How do we set that up?
Sending love for the bravery to write about your truth. Even if you do delete. β€οΈπ¦
Oh man – I’m so sorry! I love what your mentor said and it’s so true. So much of our suffering comes because we resist what is and we judge situations instead of let them be what they are. How did your surgery go? How are you feeling?